February – ‘tis the season filled with Valentine’s Day and all things that celebrate love. Is yours filled with flowers, candy and provocative underwear? Perhaps. Or maybe it’s watching a favorite movie at home with popcorn and falling asleep on the couch with your loved one? Well, the good news is that it’s not a one-size-fits-all celebration. What makes the celebration meaningful for the two of you is what truly counts.
Nothing is more wonderful than the exhilaration, the dizzying intoxication of being newly in love. But the deep and abiding love that grows out of that initial infatuation for one another is what fuels the “tie that binds,” aka, marriage. Marriage is a lot of work, and just like Valentine’s Day celebrations, it isn’t a one-size-fits-all proposition, either.
In the following posts we’re celebrating two LGBTQ married couples who found in each other the true love and commitment most of us profess to want. In addition, they all share a real passion for sports. One is a lesbian couple while the other is a gay couple; one is a professional athlete while the other three are recreational athletes. But both couples have been through good times and bad and are still together. It’s time for the world to recognize that genuine love and a lifetime commitment to one another isn’t something issued only to straight people!
If you’re wondering what this “true love” is that allows two different people to spend a lifetime together? Bob Marley, Jamaican singer and songwriter perhaps described it best when he said, “He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.” (Feel free to change the pronouns to fit you.)
Here’s wishing each one of you the happy Valentine’s Day celebration of your choice. Enjoy!
By Connie Wardman
Part one of a three part feature. Part two tomorrow or catch it in our digital issue now.